What clients have said

"I have been helped to accept my abortion and shown how to go through my own grieving process." (Sept 2015)

"I learnt to understand my feelings and process everything in a healthy way at my own pace." (Dec 2015)

"The course has helped me to cope with feelings, emotions and difficulties surrounding my abortion decisions. The steps were organised really well and allowed me to take time to evaluate my feelings.Thank you." (Apr 2016)

"I have gained self confidence through doing the programme. It is reassuring knowing that others have gone through the same experiance and felt similar things." (Apr 2016)

“I came here today feeling that an abortion was the only answer to my confusion, you have helped me see my problems in a clearer way and allowed me to look at everything again. Now I can imagine my future with a baby” (Feb 2018)

Last week a client who had just completed the post-abortion course said
“I am beginning to allow myself to feel again and am much more self-aware”
She went on to comment on her relationship saying
“Previously we were just grieving together, now it feels like we are actually living together” (Feb 2018)


Working through the program has helped me process and understand my emotions towards my termination, circumstances around it and my relationship at the time. I feel I am also more aware of my feelings and reactions to situations and can step back to look and take time to evaluate. It has undoubtedly helped deal with the sadness I was feeling and has also highlighted to me I still have work to do on my anxiety with regards to new relationships. The more I delve, the more understanding I have, I think it is an on going process.

She goes on to say

I wish I had found The Journey and The Gate sooner. Going through each step with Fiona helped me face things and let go. She was remarkable at supporting, guiding and pushing me just enough to continue to the end, I could not have done it without her! I now feel I can move forward with my life without my termination dragging me down. The Journey has helped me towards healing and opened my eyes to further areas to work on to improve my mental health. I cannot ever thank you enough!! (August 2019)

I had a very positive experience and was lucky to have found The Gate and a very good counsellor who let me talk even though I shed many tears. She was interested, patient and compassionate. (September 2020)

It has helped me to have someone calm who says they are on my side (not judging me), and that has felt better than many other similar meetings with other professionals. My counsellor was really good at listening and would let me talk for a long time, showing her excellent listening which is a hugely underrated quality for someone to have. (June 2021)

I recently spent a few months visiting The Gate as I was struggling with some things after an abortion a few years ago. We spent time discussing the past in detail and together we discovered what my real issues are. I was surprised at how angry I was with some people and am working hard to process this. I really valued the quiet time each week at The Gate and learned a lot.  (September 2023)

It was a big shock to find myself pregnant in very difficult circumstances as I had recently arrived in London and had no family support. A friend suggested I contact The Gate to talk about decisions and it was easy to arrange an appointment. I was treated like an adult and encouraged to think about what I wanted now and in the future, this was difficult as I think I was looking for somebody to do the hard work for me. I had to face some things that I had avoided but eventually found my place of peace. Very grateful for this service. (November 2023) 

I felt instantly at ease with Fiona, she was kind and gentle and that helped me to feel comfortable in discussing a very difficult situation. We took things at my pace and Fiona was flexible on how and when we met. The course was structured and helped me to explore the different angles of my situation, which, although challenging at times and deeply painful, has helped me to find peace and begin to let go of some of the heavy emotions I had been carrying. I can’t thank her and the Team enough. (January 2024)




Please note that we are not able to refer directly for termination, adoption or antenatal care. We offer clients information on all the options and are well-resourced to provide both immediate and long-term support as necessary, directing to other agencies as appropriate.